There is a storm on the horizon of my life. My husband during a long talk told me something his parents have told him. If he leaves me and moves to TN., They will give him and my youngest son a house. They are mad at me over the foreclosure incident and they blame me for not having been able to take my youngest son to TN with them for summer visits. Lovely information, now what do I do with it?

Let me give some history here as it is relavent: My husband went through a very nasty divorce and custody battle. He was not only battling his exwife for custody, but an aunt in-law and father-inlaw. The judge decided since it was such a fierce battle that my husband's mother should be granted temporary custody till real custody was settled. His mother had custody 2 months then gave my youngest son to the aunt inlaw who only allowed my husband to see our youngest son once a month. This is the same woman who is mad at me for lost time with her grandson.

My husbands whole family at this moment hates me. They say it is cause of the foreclosure( by the way we did save our house), but I beg to differ. It is cause of an arguement the insued during us saving our home. Here more history needs to be explained: Before the hurricanes in 2004, we were on top. Doing great finacially. Husbands Aunt left her husband who became addicted to oxycotins. He left them penniless. They lost their home. My husband and I helped them out with money, helped them move several times while at the same time his grand parents lost their home to the hurricanes. They were currently living with us for free. Our business went down hill. Never recovered. In the meantime His grandparents found a place to live and within months his grandmother's health took a turn for the worse. They had to file bankruptency. We also were helping them finacially. We were going under. Where were My husbands parents during all this? Up in TN with not a care in the world about what was happening to their parents or sister and her children. There is eeven a brother in there somewhere that I have never met. I have been in this family for over 10 years now. He helped them none. Here is where the fight began. In 2006 is when we knew we were gonna loose the house if we could not refinance. All of a sudden those who we helped turned on us asking us how we could let this happen? It was even stated that we could just live in tents at a state campground and that they hoped we learned something from all this. The son's of the Aunt we helped Compared us to their dad who is a drug addict and in jail at the time. Hurt beyond belief is what I was. So I reminded them all that while we were sinking we were helping them to survive and yes, we did learn something from it, we learned who would stand by us during a storm. I am to blame for all this. It lays squarely on my shoulders. The foreclosure, the arguements, the reason the grandson didn't come for visits in the summer. I an all the way here in Florida away from my own family and out casted by all of my inlaws. So are my other two children cause they are not blood relatives. My daughter more so than my oldest son because she is an alcoholic. Did I mention here that at family parties thet would give her mixed drinks at the age of 10? Yes, they did and they would get mad at ME when I told my husband if that ever happened again I would leave him, but did that detour them? No. Now she has a problem and they don't want to deal with the fact they had a hand in it. I reminded them of that fact too. Yes, I have dug my grave with them. Now, the question is...what do I do with this new information? They already expect an apology from me about the foreclosure and what I have already said. Do I dig my grave even deeper or do I just ignore it? I want to just blow up at them, but it won't change a thing it will make things worse. My husband is an only child. A child his mother never wanted at the time, who blames her own mother for her lack of relationship with her son. But hey she gave him away too. That relationship is very lacking to say the least. If I make anymore waves the family will cut my husband off altogether, if I do not my own 2 children suffer, but then they are suffering already. I am praying GOD will give me an answer. I am trying to hold my tongue. This is why I am releasing it here out in cyberspace, if I do not, I may explode.